Why bother? Here’s why. (plus 3 suggestions for getting over that attitude!)

Just. Do. It.

When I was a kid, I regularly tried to convince my mother that making the bed was a waste of time. “Why bother, Mom?!” The covers would only get messed up again later that night when I went to bed.

I think her response was something like, “Why should I bother cooking dinner, then? You’re only going to get hungry again.” Touché, Mother. Touché.

Unmade beds and sarcastic mothering aside, I’ve noticed a lot of my peeps – myself included – tend to get a “why bother?” attitude towards our creative projects. We get a creative block, so to speak.

There are a multitude of reasons why we should bother. I’ll get to that in a minute. But first, my inquiring mind had to analyze where “why bother?” comes from. I came up with a few different possibilities.

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Minding the mindfulness

Scales of justiceAs I’ve been planning to unveil the Creative + Mindful website, I’ve been stockpiling a bunch of resources about mindfulness and meditation.

I think of myself as fairly down-to-earth and pretty darn logical. But I do also feel like I’m a solid example of how engaging in the practice of mindfulness can change a life. Which is why I was surprised to find a number of articles slamming mindfulness.

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My new website is a total….

Paradox

Ahhh, I love a corny pun! Paradox was inspired by the fine folks at Punny Pixels (who are far better at the punny funniness than me) and I thought it would be a silly way to introduce the website.

For those of you who are new here, this used to be Forest of Healing but all great things evolve so it is now Creative + Mindful. What is this site about? The short answer… creativity and mindfulness. (yes, I am a card-carrying smart-aleck) These are two very important topics to me and I hope to inspire this passion in you too! The longer answer is HERE.

Who I am? Just a girl living the dream. Have a burning desire to know more about me? Ok, ok, head over HERE.

The Call to Action part

I believe in utter transparency, so since you are here, I hope you will stick around and be part of my circle of friends. What I’m saying is, please do any – or all – of the following!

  1. Join my Creative + Mindful Friends mailing list. The fancy box below let’s you do that quick and easy. You get preview access to my Unsticking the Stuckness course!
  2. Follow me on Blog Lovin’. The widget is at the top of the sidebar. Or you can go HERE. Blog Lovin’ is awesome.
  3. Follow me on the social medias: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Pinterest (if social media is your thing) – the buttons are also below.
  4. Talk to me! You can shoot me a message any time from the Contact page. Or comment here on the blog. Or on Facebook. (Or shout “Mom!” really loud at a Target store. I’m probably there and will answer you.)

Focused Silence: Meditation Retreat FAQs

(this was originally posted Nov. 26, 2014 on the Forest of Healing website.)

In October 2014 I attended a weeklong silent meditation retreat. I got A LOT of questions before I went and after I returned, so I decided to create an Frequently Asked Questions post. If you have any questions that I didn’t address here, please don’t hesitate to hop over to my Contact page and give me a shout. I’d love to hear from you!

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How 168 hours of silence changed me forever

(this post originally appeared Nov, 26, 2014 on the Forest of Healing website.)

meditation retreatThe reaction most people gave me was one of surprise: “You’re doing what?!” And then most of them followed up with: “Wow. I don’t think I’d be able to do that, myself!

This was in response to my disclosure that I was preparing to attend a meditation retreat. A Buddhist retreat offered in the Vipassana tradition. For seven days. And conducted in SILENCE.

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The Great Handbag Metaphor

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(This post originally appeared April 7, 2014 on the Forest of Healing website.)

Have you ever wondered what it means to be authentic? There’s a lot of talk these days about living authentically and being true to yourself. My frustration is that life isn’t simple and sometimes trying to figure out what it means to be authentic feels like trying to decipher a code.

To work on answering this question for myself, I thought about what authenticity means for things other than people. And I arrived at the handbag metaphor. (if you know me, you know I love a good metaphor!) Read more

How Vulnerability Can Save Our Lives

(this post originally appeared September 11, 2013 on my Forest of Healing site.)
I’m an enormous fan of Brené Brown and I’ve been re-listening to the audio version of her book Daring Greatly every morning on my drive to work. If you’re not familiar, she’s a shame researcher who has found vulnerability to be an important component of shame resilience.

She makes the point – and I very much agree – that most people tend to think of vulnerability as a sign of weakness. However, life’s lessons have taught me that the opposite is true.

Being vulnerable can be one of the greatest acts of bravery. Read more

The 6 Waves Cresting in the Ocean of Your Brain and How to Ride Them

(this originally appeared on my old Forest of Healing website on December 7, 2012)
(n.b. this is some ultra nerdy shit. I make no apologies.)

Many years ago I taught a week-long soft skills boot camp for a well-known hospitality organization. One of the modules was about stress management. Although I had taken yoga,  learned about focusing on my breath and had even tried zazen, I felt a little hokey reading the guided meditation that was supposed to be part of the module. Read more